I had a conversation with a coworker today about how bitterness, anger, and resentment are often present in individuals identifying as LGBT. It was an honest reflection on how deep wounds can shape a person’s worldview. Later, I came across a news headline that grabbed my attention—Elon Musk’s son (who now identifies as a woman) had legally changed his name to remove any connection to his father. The hostility towards Elon was intense.
It made me reflect on the earlier conversation: What fuels such deep anger?
A World Consumed by “Doomscrolling”
I wasn’t actively looking for news about Elon Musk’s son, but it popped up while I was browsing news headlines. The internet is flooded with content—from Ina Garten’s latest recipe to the Snow White movie flopping at the box office. Some of it’s entertaining, but much of it is what we now call doomscrolling—the endless consumption of negative news.
This wasn’t just about doomscrolling, though. It was about seeing a real-life example of bitterness taken to the extreme.
https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-61880709
It’s clear that Elon is decrying the trans Ideology, however, he believes his son was born gay and is autistic.
A Culture at War with Truth
It’s no surprise that President Trump’s recent statements affirming that there are only two sexes—male and female have caused an uproar. The previous administration bent over backward to redefine foundational truths to accommodate a small, vocal group. But now, we’re seeing a shift.
More and more people are willing to speak the truth because they refuse to be forced to defile their own consciences—while others, as Scripture warns, have already seared theirs.
1 Timothy 4:1-2 – The Danger of a Seared Conscience
1 Timothy 4:1-2: Now the Spirit expressly states that in later times some will abandon the faith to follow deceitful spirits and the teachings of demons, 2 influenced by the hypocrisy of liars, whose consciences are seared with a hot iron.
The Greek word for seared (kausteriazo) is where we get cauterize—which means to deaden sensation. When someone repeatedly rejects truth in favor of lies, their conscience can become so desensitized that they no longer feel conviction. I see this playing out in many LGBT-identified individuals. What fuels such anger and bitterness? Could it be wounds that were never healed?
I decided to do some reading to figure out, or at least see if i could figure out what this story is all about with Elon’s son. Why is he so bitter? Why does he hate his father so much? And is it possible an offense that went unnoticed or neglected, turned into a decision to cast off every vestige of his masculinity he got from his father? I’m intrigued. In fact, the intense anger and bitterness coming from the lgbt community intrigues me because I feel like we are looking at something that fuels the defiant fist in the face of God and man.
A Personal Reflection: Wounds That Shape Identity
I lived as a gay-identified man for 16 years, and I never knew anyone in that community who was openly bitter, angry, or militant. I also never heard anyone claim they were born gay. And I personally was not aware of my own HIDDEN bitterroot judgments I had against my abusers, which only surfaced after I came to the Lord Jesus in full surrender to His Lordship.
There was, however, one man I knew who once confided in me at a club called Angles. He said:
“When I’m just myself, no one cares whether I’m alive or dead. But when I’m in drag, everyone loves me.”
It was heartbreaking. His desire for love and validation led him to consider changing his identity. I did my best to assure him that he had worth and value.
Elon Musk’s Son – A Story of Wounds?
It’s worth noting that Elon Musk has 14 children with 4 different women—a situation that naturally raises concerns about emotional and relational neglect. Could that be part of the deep resentment his son feels? I am willing to believe it is.
In 2020, Elon publicly supported trans ideology, but now by standing with President Trump in that there are only two sexes, he is facing the backlash of speaking out against it. What changed? Perhaps, like many others, he is seeing the tragic consequences of this movement:
•The physical and psychological damage of trans medicine.
•The emotional blackmail parents face when they refuse to affirm false identities.
•The reality that love cannot be dictated by ideology.
At First Stone Ministries, we often see prodigals who use emotional terrorism; revoking all traces of relationship, permanent blockage, and some, even emancipation from the parents to force their parents to conform. Some have even influenced other family members to adopt their ideology. Thankfully, many parents stand firm, knowing that compromising truth is not love—it’s destruction.
Would it be love to forsake the truth, silence conviction, and surrender to deception- all to appease a prodigal who demands we affirm their rebellion? True love does not bow to lies; it stands firm, calls the lost home, and refuses to abandon what is right for the sake of temporary peace.
A Warning for Parents: The Pressure to Compromise
Can you see the correlation between the child or prodigal who has deliberately refused the truth to believe a lie and then cause the parents who love them to bow down to their demands that the parents themselves become desensitized to the truth? Track with me just a bit here. Can you see the influence here? The prodigal who has a seared conscience is demanding the parents do essentially the same thing. That is what it boils down to. I’ve said it before, I’m a logical thinker. I’m also a biblical thinker, and I am warned in 1 Cor 15:33 that bad company corrupts good morals.
I’ve seen this happen.
I know of one woman whose son told her, “I’ve been supporting you for 21 years, and now it’s time you support me”. This is in regard to his embracing a homosexual identity. And she did what her son told her to do, and now, she affirms every broken expression of humanity. If you decide you are a cat, she will buy you kitty litter to show you how much she loves you. It’s THAT bad. I don’t say this to mock, but to warn. Paul the apostle said ” a little leaven leavens the whole lump,” Galatians 5:9. Compromise leads to greater deception. I warn my clients that when we open a door to the demonic, we have no say in what comes through that door. And when someone takes biblical truth and tosses it out of the window in exchange for man’s opinions and feelings, a demonic influence is allowed in, and it’s only a matter of time before they are absolutely rejecting all biblical truth.
The Role of Fathers: Healing the Wounds
I hearken back to Elons son, Xavier. What happened in his young life when he came to embrace a false identity? I can imagine having 14 siblings, which, when mentioned, he defers to a statement that he doesn’t even know how many siblings he has. It’s probably egregious to him that his father doesn’t seem to have any conviction about a one-flesh covenant marriage. As I read the articles, I could hear a wounded, angry boy that is lashing out against his father. And it is a statistical fact that a large percentage of those identifying as LGBT have had some kind of trauma or abuse. Studies published in the Journal of Sex Research titled ” Childhood Abuse, Sexual Identity, and Sexual Risk Behaviors Among Men Who Have Sex With Men” (2009). Similarly, studies on lesbian and bi-sexual women, such as those published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior and Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, have found that a larger significant percentage report childhood trauma at higher rates than heterosexual women. Journal of Womens Health (2014) show that a large percentage of LGBT-identified individuals have experienced childhood trauma or abuse:
This information raises serious questions! How many grew up without a father figure? How many have been emotionally abandoned or sexually abused. It’s clear to me that God uses the Father to speak into the life of his son or daughter, and when men don’t receive that, they cannot give what they haven’t received. My father did not know how to successfully raise a son to become a man, because he was abandoned at an early age, consequenlty his three sons never received what they desperately needed as boys. And in turn, in becoming a parent, I passed on what my father passed on to me. Only this time, I was and am aware of my need, my daughters need, for me to own my failure of not being the dad they needed.
Drawing from my own life, I was never cognizant of the trauma, the neglect, the abuse. In fact just last September 2024 a conversation I was part of involving forgiving your abusers floored me when someone said it was easy to forgive his abusers because he thought of them as friends. I instantly recognized in his statement, something that baffled me for years, how was it that I could have easily let them all of those men off the hook and moved on? Because I thought of them as friends. It never dawned on me that they were not friends, but predators who used me. Talk about a gut punch.
My heart goes out to Xavier, because I can only imagine what his life has been like, and I know God sees him too. And there are situations where because of shame and failure, some dads remain absent or have abdicated their very important role I the life of their sons or daughters. Personally, I know how I failed my girls. I know how shame I bore around failing to be a good dad, failure at being a good husband, failure to fight for my family, resulted in separation and a progressive wedge being driven between them and myself. I know what it’s like to carry the shame of failing as a father.
I remember the phone ringing, seeing my ex-wife’s name on the caller ID, but feeling too ashamed to answer. I was frozen, feeling like a failure.
By God’s grace, I’ve been able to own my failures with each daughter, and leave the door open when, and if, they discovder they need to process the past. I recognize that healing takes time and may require multiple revisits. This is something my father never did, he never took responsibility for anything, and I didn’t want to do that to my girls.
How Should We Respond?
When you see an LGBT-identified person expressing anger, defiance, or bitterness, remember this: You are most likely looking at a wounded person.
So, how do we meet them in a way that leaves them with the impression that they met Jesus?
1.Know the Word of God.
•Parents, don’t just tell your prodigal what you believe—tell them what God’s Word says. They can argue with opinions, but they cannot effectively argue with Scripture.
2. See them through God’s perspective.
•Ask the Holy Spirit: What do You see? What do You want to do in this situation?
3.Refuse to compromise truth in the name of love.
•True love does not affirm lies—it points people to healing and redemption in Christ.
I believe we are living in the “later times” Paul warned about. But rather than be discouraged, let’s invite the Holy Spirit into our situations and circumstances—and let Him move. And let us not forget what Isaiah says about healing.
Isaiah 53:5-“But He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on Him, and by His stripes we are healed.”
and in Luke 4:18-19 Jesus quotes from Isaiah 61:1
“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me,
because he has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives
and recovering of sight to the blind,
to set at liberty those who are oppressed,
to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor,”
This Earthen Vessel 